Where We Are?
What if the distance you feel in your relationship isn't a sign that something is broken? What if it's a sign that you've lost your location inside it?
Where We Are is a podcast about orientation, not diagnosis. Hosted by Dr. Alon Aviram, each episode maps a relationship pattern you'll recognize from your own life and shows you where you actually stand.
Eleven episodes. One season. For anyone who's done the reading, tried the therapy, and still can't name why the connection feels off. No blame. No quick fixes. Just the language for what you already feel.
Episodes
17 episodes
Why Am I So Sensitive?
Someone walks into the room, and before a word is spoken, you already know. The mood shifted, and you felt it land on your skin. A hard conversation ends and everyone else moves on, and you are still carrying it three days later. Somewhere alon...
Why Am I So Lazy?
Lazy. Maybe someone said it to you once and it stuck, deep, where you cannot reach to pull it out. Or maybe nobody had to say it, because you say it to yourself now, every time you sit down, every time the day ends with the list untouched.<...
Why Cant I Stop Working?
It is Saturday. You promised this one was yours. And here you are at the desk, because there was just one thing, and the one thing had another thing behind it. You are not doing this because you love it. It is more like a hand at your back that...
Why Can't I Get Myself Going?
There is a list. It is not even a hard list. And you sit there, and you do not do it. Not because you decided not to. There is just a pane of glass between you and your own life that you cannot get your hands through.In this episode, Dr....
Why Cant I Switch Off?
The day is done. There is nothing left to do. And something in you is still standing up, still scanning, still braced for a thing that is not coming.Season two of Where We Are turns inward, from what happens between two people to what ha...
Why did having a baby break something between us?
What if the thing that broke when the baby came wasn't the relationship? What if it was the version of the two of you that no longer fits the life you're inside? This episode sits with the photograph on the fridge: the couple before, the couple...
Why does my partner shut down when I try to talk to them?
What if the shutdown isn't refusal? What if it's what happens when a nervous system crosses the line from engaged to flooded? This episode maps the moment before the fight: one partner presses in, the other goes quiet, and both read the silence...
Why am I disappearing inside this relationship?
What if disappearing isn't the cost of loving well? What if it's what happens when one partner keeps making room and no one notices the room is being taken from them? This episode sits with the self that has been quietly subtracted: the things ...
Why do I feel lonelier in this relationship than when I was single?
What if the loneliness isn't a sign you chose wrong? What if it's what happens when two lives begin running quietly in parallel, under the same roof? This episode looks at the drift no one talks about: she has her book, he has his project, no o...
Why does excitement always end in a fight?
What if the good day didn't go wrong? What if it did exactly what it was built to do, in a relationship where one of you needs novelty to feel alive and the other needs predictability to feel safe? This episode maps the Predictable-Playful axis...
Why do I feel responsible for their emotions all the time?
What if your attunement isn't a gift you chose to give? What if it became the price of admission you stopped noticing you were paying? This episode maps the invisible labor of emotional weather: one partner scans the room before entering, softe...
Why does my partner pull away the closer I get?
What if your partner's withdrawal isn't a refusal of closeness? What if it's the only way their system knows to stay intact? This episode maps the pursue-withdraw cycle from both sides: one person reaches, the other steps back, and the harder y...
Why do we keep having the same fight over and over?
What if the fight isn't the problem? What if it's the only reliable way the two of you still reach each other? This episode looks at the loop you already know by heart: same trigger, same words, same ending. It's not a communication breakdown. ...
Why does calm feel like something is wrong?
What if the quiet in the room isn't peace? What if it's the sound of two people who have politely stopped reaching? This episode looks at the couples who stopped fighting and the particular flavor of absence that followed. It's not numbness. It...
Why do we feel like roommates?
What if the problem isn't that you stopped loving each other? What if it's that the week started running on coordination, not curiosity? This episode looks at the slow slide from partners who discover each other to partners who manage a househo...
Why do couples who love each other feel so far apart?
What if the distance between you isn't a sign that something's wrong? What if it's what happens when love has no place to actually travel between you? This episode opens the series with the question underneath all the others: you share a bed, a...
